Thanking your husband or wife with a thank you message is a great way to let them know they are appreciated.
I have been married since 2002, and like it when my husband says, “thank you.” And I often tell him “thank you” for the things that he does.
How you deliver your message will be up to you. Usually, I recommend handwritten thank-you notes. But not everyone appreciates or wants handwritten notes.
My husband did not grow up writing notes and doesn’t care if he ever gets a thank you note from anyone about anything. So, we verbally express our gratitude to each other. Perhaps, a handwritten note or letter, or a text message, or email would work for your relationship.
The information below will help you write a quick thank-you note to your spouse.
What has your spouse done recently that you would like to recognize?
Here are some ideas that may provide inspiration for you note or a message:
- Have they helped extra with the kids?
- Did they take care of you and the household when you were sick?
- Are they working hard every day so that you can be a stay at home parent?
- Did they work overtime to earn extra money to buy you something special?
- Do you want to say thank you for their love and support?
- Are there daily things that are done that you want to say thank you for?
I recommend including specific examples that you are thankful for. “Thank you for all you do, you are great” feels like a printed message in a greeting card. Use your own words to let them know exactly what you are grateful for.
- Thanking your spouse will likely be a more personal note than a typical thank-you note.
- The examples below will be based on my own experiences and imagination. They should help you get started if you are not sure what to say. Remember to personalize it.
- If writing a note or email, the message can be concluded with “Love” or “I Love You” or “love you so much,” followed by your name. You can see the layout of all the elements in a thank you note here.
- If you have a lot to say, you can write a longer letter or email. You may want to take the wording from several of the examples.
- Compliments are great to include! (ex. You are the perfect man/woman for me, or You are the best husband/wife).
- If you usually use an endearment such as darling or honey, you can use it in your message.
I’m not splitting out the examples by husband or wife since marriage roles are not as traditional as they once were (ex. there are more stay-at-home dads now than in previous time periods).
Words in [brackets] should be replaced with what works for your message.
General thank you messages to husband or wife
♥ Thank you for consistently helping with the dishes. As you know, I love to cook but not clean up afterward. I am grateful that you are taking on this task as it keeps me motivated to make healthy meals for us.
♥ I was surprised when you started working overtime. I am thankful that you did! The new furniture is exactly what I wanted. It’s perfect for the room.
♥ I want to let you know how thankful I am that you agreed to read The Total Money Makeover and follow the advice. Our finances and marriage are stronger because of it. I am looking forward to us becoming debt-free!
♥ I love being married to you! I had so much fun with you on the picnic and hike last weekend. Thank you for organizing it. It was a perfect surprise and the day together was just what we needed.
♥ Thank you for taking such good care of me while I was sick last week. I appreciate that you made me soup and brought it to me on the couch. And thank you for washing the blankets after I spilled soup on them.
♥ Happy Anniversary! Thank you for all of the flowers and cards you’ve given me each year. They make me feel loved and appreciated. You are a wonderful [husband/wife]!
♥ Thank you for wishing me a happy birthday and for the gift cards. I will have fun on my shopping spree and appreciate that you didn’t try to pick out clothes or shoes for me. You’re the best!
♥ I love that we have learned to compromise. Thank you for agreeing to let me keep 2 kittens. They are super cute, and I’ve become quite attached. They will be snuggling with you soon!
Thank you for all your hard work
♥ I appreciate your help last week with the kids. I needed a break! My energy has returned, and I look forward to returning to the regular routine. The kids and I are thankful for how hard you work that I can stay at home with them.
♥ Thank you for working so hard to support the family and me. You show the value of hard work to our children every day and are a great example to them. Your work ethic is amazing.
♥ Thank you for all your hard work in remodeling the house. It’s been a lot of work, and I know saved money since you did labor yourself. The kitchen looks great now, and I enjoy cooking in it every day.
♥ You are the best [husband/wife]! Thank you for all the hard work you have done in the yard this summer. I hated those bushes and am glad they are gone! The house looks so much more inviting without them blocking the front of the house. I am also grateful that you did all the lawn mowing this year!
♥ Thank you for working hard every day! I’ve seen how tired you are at the end of the day and appreciate your dedication to your job. Someday we will be retired and be glad for all we’ve been able to save to have an early retirement.
Thank you for taking care of me
♥ Thank you for taking care of me when I had my teeth pulled. The pain was much worse than the dentist said it would be. I appreciate that you made all of the soft food that I wanted and did all of the housework too. I’m so thankful for you.
♥ Let’s week was rough! Thank you for caring for me while I was sick. The kids shared all the fun things you did with them while I was resting. I am grateful to you for keeping them distracted. You are a great [great husband/wife].
♥ I know I can be difficult when I do not feel well. Thank you for being there and helping out when I need to spend a few days in bed.
♥ Thank you for always taking care of me. I feel so loved by all the support you provide to me. I’m grateful that I’ve been able to depend on you for all the years of our marriage. I’m looking forward to more adventures with you.
♥ I still feel sad that I was sick on our honeymoon. Thank you for taking care of me and making the most of it. We can’t plan for when we will be sick. I enjoyed our time together even though it wasn’t what we dreamed for our week away. Let’s plan for another week away next year.
Religious – thanking God for my husband or wife
♥ I thank God for you every day! We are the perfect match and I am thankful that God worked it out for us to meet and marry. I love you very much and I’m grateful for all that you do.
♥ You are a wonderful, loving [husband/wife]. I am grateful that we are together and thank God for you daily. Last week, I felt connected to you when we read the Bible together. And thank you for helping pass on our values to our children.
♥ I’m so thankful that we are living our best life possible together. You are the most thoughtful, caring [man/woman] I have ever know and I’m proud to call my [husband/wife]. Praise the Lord that He brought us together!
♥ I am so thankful to God for giving you to me. The life we have together is more than I ever dreamed a marriage could be. Sharing the love of Jesus has given us a strong foundation.
Thank you for being the best husband or wife
♥ You are the best! I enjoy being married to you and thank you for all that you do. We make a wonderful team. I am grateful for the little things you do like taking out the trash and helping with the dishes and laundry. And I treasure our long walks and road trip adventures.
♥ Thank you for being the best [husband/wife]. My life feels full and complete with you in ait and I feel loved every day. Thanks for always being there for me!
♥ I’m so glad that we are sharing our lives and love being married to you. Thank you for being the best possible spouse that I could have asked for. I love how you support me and recently for giving me so much encouragement when I had doubts about my job situation.
♥ Thanks for being my best friend and mate for life. From the bottom of my heart, I want you to know how thankful I am for you. I love how you [and then list out everything you like/love about your spouse – this could make for a long letter or email].