9 Excuses for Not Writing Thank You Notes Busted

There are many excuses for not writing thank-you notes. Perhaps, you have used some of these excuses. I am sure that I have used some of them before.

Maybe someone has given you one of these excuses for not sending you a thank you note after you gave them a gift.

A typical thank-you note for a gift can be written in 5 minutes or less so most excuses don’t hold up!

9 excuses and tips for overcoming them:

1. My handwriting is not legible. Try writing slower and with the intention of writing legible words. Another suggestion is to print instead of writing in cursive. What would your grandma think if she gave you $100 but you can’t manage to write a legible thank you note?

2. People do not send thank you notes anymore. Check out the card section of most retail stores. You will find boxes of “Thank You” cards. Retailers sell what people buy. If no one was buying them stores would stop selling them. There are also sites such as Current Catalog and Minted. that have Thank You Note sections.

3. I am lazy. Well, not much to say about this excuse. You’ll have to choose to not be lazy to get that thank you note written.

4. I can’t find their address. Finding addresses can be challenging but you are in luck! I’ve written a post with 8 tips for tracking down addresses. Asking someone for their address or hand-delivering the thank you note are also options.

5. Stamps are too expensive. If you are mailing just one note this is a poor excuse. You probably have enough loose change in your car to cover the price of a stamp. For large events such as weddings or graduations, the cost of stamps should be factored into the cost of the event. Plan ahead. Also, it is also very likely that you received some cash gifts. You could use some of that cash to pay for stamps (and cards).

6. I don’t know how to write you thank you note. You can learn to write a thank you note. Remember, the goal is to say thank you in your own words. If you have never written one before, there is a first time for everything! Once you do a few and get some confidence, the process will not feel as intimidating.

Read How to write a good thank you note

7. People do not expect to receive a thank you not anymore. This is the perfect reason to send a thank-you note. Some people do not expect them. But what if they do expect a thank you note? If you do not send a thank-you note they may take you off their gift list! Do you want to risk it? Remember that people like to be recognized.

8. I have a ton to write and feel too overwhelmed to even start. After your wedding or graduation, you may have a 25, 50, or even a 100 to write. This is a lot but with a plan, you can write them all without feeling overwhelmed. This guide will help!

9. I don’t have the time. We make time for things that we consider important and a priority. Decide that writing the thank you note is a priority and the time will appear. You could watch one less show (TV, YouTube, NetFlix, etc.) or spend less time on the Internet (Facebook, social media, or just surfing) one day a week to make the time.

Heidi has been writing thank you notes for more than 30 years and is the author of A Modern Guide to Writing Thank-You Notes. Her goal is to help people write better thank-you notes by providing tips and examples.

2 thoughts on “9 Excuses for Not Writing Thank You Notes Busted”

  1. Some people feel that if they say thank you in person when they receive the gift then a written note is not necessary. I like to both.

  2. These are really great tips, Heidi! I especially love #7. A lot of people don’t do this anymore, which is all more reason why people should. It’s such a great way to stand out.

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