If you’ve been invited to a wedding or wedding reception, you may want to express your gratitude with a message or note of thanks.
The tips, template, and examples will help you with the wording of your message to thank them for the invitation to their wedding. Or to say thank you, if you’ve already been to the wedding or reception.
Important Etiquette Note:
Saying thank you with a message or note does not replace the RSVP card or digital ways of responding to the invitation.
If you received an RSVP or response card, that should still be mailed as soon as possible. Or if they requested your response in another way, still do that. You can learn how to RSVP to a wedding here.
- If you are mailing in an RSVP card or postcard, there may be room to write “thanks for inviting us!” on the card.
- If mailing back a response card in an envelope (not a postcard), you can handwrite a note on a separate piece of paper (or stationery or nice notepad paper) and stick it in the envelope.
- You can mail a thank you note or send your thank you message as an email, text message, or another way.
- The note contents will vary if you are sending your thank you after attending the wedding.
This post is part of the thank you for inviting series. You can see more detailed “thank you for the invite” templates and tips here.
Note 1: Replace words in [brackets] as needed.
Note 2: The examples are the center section of the note only. Learn more about thank-you notes here.
Before the wedding
Dear [Person’s Name],
Thank you for inviting [us/me] to your wedding! [Indicate if you will be attending or not]. [We are looking forward to it!] or [Unfornately, we can’t make it – and then say why you are not coming if you want to].
Sincerely (or other closing),
After the wedding
Dear [Person’s Name],
Thank you for inviting [us/me] to your wedding! The ceremony was beautiful and we enjoyed the reception. [Add a compliment about the food, dancing, etc.]
Kind Regards (or other closing),
Wedding and Reception
Before wedding – attending
#1 We are excited to attend your wedding on July 5th. All four of us will be coming. Thank you for inviting us! We are looking forward to it. See you then.
#2 Thank you for inviting us to your wedding on April 4th. Bob and I will be attending, but the kids will stay with their grandparents. We will have fun at the reception too. With no kids coming along, it will feel like a date night for us. And of course, we are happy to celebrate your love and marriage.
#3 Thank you for inviting me to your wedding. The invitation was beautiful, and I’m looking forward to seeing all of our college friends there.
Before wedding – not attending
#1 Thank you for inviting us to your wedding on March 21. Unfortunately, we will not be able to attend as we will be away on vacation that week. We wish you all the best as you start your new life together.
#2 Thank you for inviting me to your wedding in June. I am sorry to miss it. I have another commitment that weekend and will not be able to attend. I look forward to hearing all about it!
#3 Thank you so much for inviting us to your wedding next month. We appreciate the invitation. However, we will not be able to come. We wish you the best on your big day.
After the wedding
#1 Your wedding was beautiful. Thank you so much for inviting us. We had fun at the reception too, and the food was great, especially the [fancy dish name].
#2 Thanks for inviting us to your wedding. The music and ceremony were beautiful. We could see how much you love each other. And meeting your extended family at the reception was nice too.
#3 Thank you for inviting me to your wedding. Your pastor and church family seem wonderful—what a blessing for you. The food, especially the chicken, was fantastic at the reception.
#4 Thank you for including us on your wedding day. We were grateful for the invitation. You two make a wonderful couple, and we hope to see your love for each other grow as the years go by. Congratulations!
Wedding Reception Only
Note: Sometimes, people host a reception separate from the wedding. For example, if it was a destination wedding or married at the courthouse, the couple may host a reception. These examples are for if you were only invited to the reception.
Before reception – attending
#1 We are happy to inform you that we will be coming to your wedding reception on July 20th. See you then!
#2 Thanks for the invite to your wedding reception on June 4th. Bob and I will both be attending and are looking forward to it. The venue sounds delightful as we both like outdoor parties.
#3 Thank you for inviting us to your wedding reception. The way you guys love each other so much is inspiring, and it’s our pleasure to celebrate your marriage. We will see you on the 20th!
Before reception – not attending
#1 Thank you for inviting me to your reception. Unfortunately, I can’t attend, but it meant a lot to me to receive an invitation. Let’s plan to go out to dinner in a couple of months, and you can share the memories of the day with me.
#2 We appreciate being invited to your wedding reception. Unfornatulatey, we will not be able to make it as we have another commitment that day. I look forward to hearing all about your weeding another day.
#3 Thank you for inviting us to your wedding reception. We had a wonderful time meeting your family and eating the fancy food. The oysters were a nice treat for us. We wish your marriage all the best and are excited to see what your future brings.
#1 Your wedding reception was so much fun. Thanks for inviting my husband and me. [Location] was the perfect place for it. Also, we enjoyed everything from the food to the other guests. Best wishes for your future.
#2 Thanks for having us come to your wedding reception. It was a delight to celebrate your marriage with you. The barn at [place] was the perfect place to have it. [Name of person that owns the barn] was an awesome host. And the wedding party looked great in the photos with the beautiful sunset in the background.
#3 Thank you for the invitation to your wedding reception. The old barn was the perfect place for it. The lighting made it feel romantic. We loved the music and dancing too. Congratulations on your commitment to each other.
#4 We had a delightful time at your wedding reception. Thank you for inviting us to celebrate your marriage. The food, dancing, music, and meeting your other friends made for a great evening. You made a great couple!
#5 Thanks for inviting me to your wedding reception and congratulations on your marriage. The party was a fun celebration, and we appreciated being included. Also, the catering was fantastic.