Whenever a friend, relative, coworker, or someone else helps you, it’s thoughtful to thank them for the help.
I recommend you write a thank-you note or letter (the difference being that a letter is typically longer than a note). The delivery could also be an email, phone call, or text message.
Tip: A handwritten note will likely feel more personal than other methods. This post includes gift suggestions, templates and tips, and example wording for notes.
Depending on the situation, you may decide to give the person a thank-you gift too. Here are some gift suggestions:
- Amazon gift card
- Starbucks gift card
- Favorite local restaurant gift card
- Take them out for a meal
- An item that you know they would love
If you know they don’t like to shop online, don’t get them a gift card for Amazon or any other place online.
If you don’t know the person well, a local restaurant that is considered well-liked is probably a safe bet.
Or just stick to the note or letter.
If you decide to give a digital gift card via email, you might be able to include a brief thank you note with the gift card. The recipient will then see your message in the email with the digital gift card. (I’ve done this when sending my sister-in-law an Amazon gift card via email).
Wording templates and tips
Below are some basic templates you can use. Just fill in the words with [brackets] with your own words. If you have more than one reason to thank the person, your note may be a couple of paragraphs or more (which would make it more like a letter than a short thank you note).
Thank you for the help with [what they helped you with]. I am grateful for your help because [enter reason].
Thanks for coming over to help me with the project. I appreciate your time! [And then go on to say why the help was helpful].
We appreciate your support. Your generous help has made an impact. Because of your help [….then list how you benefited from their help].
The examples below the tips will be examples of what you could say. The best note will be specific about how they helped you and why you appreciated it. There are so many situations where people help others that I will make up a few to use as examples.
Tip #1 The examples below are the center section of your thank you note. If you need to see how a complete thank-you note looks with the greeting and closing, check out this cheat sheet.
Tip #2 Read all the examples as you may be inspired by the wording in different examples, and you could combine several in your note. Pick and choose the parts of the examples that you feel work for your note. The example messages can be copied or modified to make your needs.
Tip #3 Simple is okay. Your note could be as simple as “thanks for your help” but keep in mind that a simple note may feel generic. However, if you are struggling to find the words, a short one-sentence note. This approach is better than not recognizing the help at all. Or if you don’t want to mention how someone helped you, a short note will work.
Tip #4 Take your time and choose a memorable note card. The person may keep your card, so make it pleasant! They may show it to people too (depending on why they are thanking you. But don’t get hung up on the choice of the card. Simple is fine, and what you write on the card is more important than the design of the card.
Tip #5 Same-day help. If you are thanking someone on the same day that they helped you, a quick note via text message, email, or in-person will work as they likely know and remember how they helped you. You may choose to follow up with a longer handwritten note later.
Tip #6 Advice. If the help was receiving advice, you may want to review the Thank you for the advice messages here.
Thank you for your help wording examples
#1 I am thankful for your help and support with my kids. I am glad that I can depend on you. Because of your willingness to help for a few hours each day, I can keep the job that I love.
#2 I am grateful for your help with the kids. They love having you as a babysitter when things come up at work at the last minute. I appreciate your willingness to pick them up from school for me. They always live spending more time with you.
#3 Thank you for the help and support. I was able to get over that hurdle [in your note you can say what the hurdle was] because of your willingness to help me. I promise to pay it forward someday.
#4 We appreciate your support. Learning how to stay on a budget has been a challenge. We are grateful to have you for accountability. For the first time since we’ve been married, we have money in our savings account. Knowing that you will see where we spent our money as made had a significant impact on our spending.
#5 Thank you so much for helping me. Your help and support helped me get through [say what that was]. I am glad we met and became friends. You are a blessing in my life and many others.
#6 I really appreciate all the help you’ve been giving me lately! Unpacking boxes has been much more fun with you being there to talk to you. I will take you out to dinner when we are done to reward you for so much help.
#7 I am grateful to you for helping me get through when I was laid off from my job. As you know, I was feeling get depressed about it. I am grateful that you were there for me and listened. Your help and encouragement made a difference in my life.
Examples wording for notes for help with a project
#1 I want to take a few minutes to recognize the help that you gave me with the big project last week. I am not sure I could have finished it on time without your help. Your time and efforts are very much appreciated.
#2 Your help with the project was awesome! I felt over my head and completely lost when Violet needed to make a photo collage for school. It’s been so long since I’ve printed pictures. Your guidance on how to print them at the store was perfect. Violet got an A on her collage!
#3 That project was much more time-consuming than expected. Now I know how to plan for next time. I appreciate you chipping in and helping to get it done on time.
#4 I am thankful for your help with my painting project. Your kindness is appreciated. I was starting to feel like the room would never get painted. It looks great! Thanks again for painting it for me.
#5 Thank you for helping me put the new cat towers together. Assembling the cat towers at home made the project more affordable. And you were great at using the drill to save time. The cats are enjoying the new towers.
Short thank you for the help sayings
- Thank you for helping today.
- I appreciate your help today and always!
- Thank you for being there for me and always helping when I ask.
- I am grateful for you and your help.
- Thank you for being a great supportive friend to me.
- You are a wonderful helper! Thank you.
- Thanks for the help!
- Thank you for taking the time to help me this week.