Write a thank you note because you were NOT entitled to the gift

This week, I will be writing a series of posts on reasons to write thank you notes. This first post will cover entitlement.

Most people have received a gift and not written a thank you note. Sometimes it may slip our minds. But what about those that NEVER write thank you notes? Could it be that they felt entitled to the gift?

Life events were people may feel entitled:

$ high school graduation

$ bridal showers

$ weddings

$ baby showers

These are all occasions where gifts are usually received. Perhaps, you’ve given someone a gift for one or more of these events and didn’t receive a thank you note. How did that make you feel? Some people I’ve encountered brush it off saying they do not expect them anymore. I can see the disappointment in their eyes.

Note: Giving a gift does not entitle you to a thank a note. That’s not the point of giving a gift. However, when people show their gratitude with a note the feeling is awesome and makes the gift giver feel recognized and appreciated.

Attitude Check

If you receive a gift you were not entitled to it. If someone gave you money, remember that it is THEIR money that they choose to give to YOU. Giving a gift is not required. This post on how to write a thank you note for money while guide you through the process, if not knowing how has been holding you back. Once you write a few it will get easier.

You may feel like you deserve the gift because it is tradition to receive gifts at graduations and weddings. “Aunt so-and-so gives everyone money for their graduation”. So you don’t write the thank you note.

If your attitude is not an attitude of gratitude you many not receive any gifts again. Aunt so-and-so may take you off her gift giving list!


I hope you this post will encourage you to write a thank you note whenever you receive a gift!

Do you keep giving gifts to people that never write a thank you note or even say thank you in person?

About The Author
Heidi has been writing thank you notes for more thank 30 years and is the author of A Modern Guide to Writing Thank-You Notes. Her goal is to help people write better thank-you notes by provding tips and examples.

2 thoughts on “Write a thank you note because you were NOT entitled to the gift”

  1. I do give gifts to people who do not say thank you. Although it would be nice if when a gift is given through the mail the person would let you know they have received it. Anymore when when I send a gift for example a baby gift I always add tracking to the postage. That way I know it has arrived safely whether they let me know or not. Some people feel if you are present when the gift is given just a quick thank you at the time is enough. I think in the written note you
    have had time to think about graditiude more sincerely. Yes, I know someone who takes people off their list of giving because never received a thank you for the last gift.

    • Hi Mom,

      People should at least acknowledge that they received the gift, I agree.

      I bet we are thinking of same person that takes people off the list if they don’t write a thank you!

      Heidi

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